The pretty, 30-ish woman in our group had her arms crossed and was scowling. "This stinks!" she exclaimed. "I don't want to have to do this stuff. It's not any fun at all." The rest of the group nodded in agreement . . . we were discussing, in our personal finance class, the previous week's lesson on budgeting.
This woman understood well the concepts of allotting dollar amounts for each category, curtailing the use of credit, and setting goals. It wasn't the process she was struggling with -- that was straightforward -- it was having to delay gratification.
"Yeah, but won't it be cool if, by doing this stuff now, you can save the money to send your kids to college?" I asked. Her face softened, and she shrugged, and said "I know. Yeah, I guess that would be cool." The realization that she was working toward a goal didn't eliminate her frustration completely, but it did help her to put it into context.
The problem with using thrift strategies, or any other financial discipline, is that they sometimes require short-term persistence or, the "s-word" in our culture: sacrifice, to yield long-term gain. In a culture which is spoon-fed immediate gratification through the media, persevering to reach a goal isn't always "fun", and doesn't have the shine of "new, now, you-owe-it-to-yourself" which we regularly encounter.
I was reminded of this a few weeks ago while complaining about how long it was taking to remodel my kitchen. A kind friend said, gently, "But think of how rewarding all your hard work will be when it's finally done." Hating to admit it, I had to acknowledge that she was right. Sometimes the greatest feeling of accomplishment comes with the realization of a goal which we have persevered to meet. (Any graduation ceremony is a great reminder of the rewards which come with perseverance.)
Now, you may notice that my 30-ish friend and I have something in common: that is, we both sometimes whine when things feel difficult . . . when we're doing something that isn't "fun". I, for one, am still learning not to whine, and am more successful some days than others. But it is also important to note that the desire to quit is not the same thing as the decision to quit. Perseverance, for my friend and I, means that we are both still working toward a goal.
If changing the way you use your finances -- and employing thrift strategies to do so -- enables you to reach your goal, then the end will indeed justify the means. You will have freed up funds for things that really matter . . . and your reward will be that much sweeter because you will have persevered.
--Susan Rodebush © 2009
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